The Dreaded “F” Word

Dating back to the late 19th Century, feminism has been a term that’s stood for equality, ferocity, and tenacity. Starting with gaining the right to vote the late 1890’s, to workplace equality and domestic violence protection in the 1960’s -1980’s, to intersectionality from the 1990’s-present; feminism has been the backbone- empowering women to stand up and prove themselves worthy of a life free of oppression.

Standing for strong and positive causes in the beginning, when did it become the “dreaded ‘F’ word”? Sometimes, just hearing the word makes me cringe. It’s been twisted from equality to female superiority, basically reversing the roles from the origin of the cause. These radical feminists have been coined Feminazis, and it’s hard not to agree with the sentiment.

Over the last twenty years or so, it’s become trendy to hate men and be “Down with the Patriarchy”, even amongst men who consider themselves “feminist”, and that’s just not what feminism was intended to be. As much as we might like to, we can’t punish an entire gender just to get even. And that seems to be what much of this new brand of feminism is implying.

It’s become so militant now that women are trying to tell other women what to do with their bodies, and where I’m all about individuality and doing what makes you happy versus what society expects, I don’t do them to be a feminist. Things like shaving, for example. I shave because I like the way my skin feels afterwards and I think it looks cleaner, not because I’m “oppressed by society”. I wax my face because I don’t want a mustache, not because I’m “subconsciously upholding a sexist standard of beauty”. When I neglect them, it’s not because I’m being defiant, it’s because I’m being lazy and simply don’t want to. I don’t need some radical, rebellious reason except, “fuck it”.

Not just our bodies, feminists also want to control women’s careers. This so-called “feminist” is literally saying that stay-at-home moms are parasites.

Sadly, it’s now necessary to point out that feminism doesn’t mean being handed something that men also have to work for just because women have been oppressed for so long. A great and fresh example of this would be our latest election. I can’t tell you how many social media posts I read from both men and women who were voting for Hillary simply because she’s a woman. This isn’t feminism; this is sexism (and poor judgment). Where I’d love to be alive for the first woman president, I’d also like for her to share my values and have some fucking human decency. The presidency is not earned by gender alone, nor is respect. And no amount of guilt-tripping or shaming from feminist dinosaurs like Gloria Steinem or Madeline Albright will ever make me respect Hillary Clinton.

Some feminists are even trying to redefine rape now to give themselves more legal power over men…

And regardless of what you’ve been through, their suffering is always far greater than yours…

Overall, I suppose that I could be considered a feminist in the traditional sense, which used to mean equality for both genders, shared working responsibilities, equal family roles, equal compensation for equal work, and of course, all of the rights that women have had to fight for over the years, including the right to make decisions in our own marriages.

But not only is this new form of Neo-Feminism the wrong way to go about ensuring equality, it’s actually detrimental to the cause. Women have had to fight the stereotype of being “crazy” for far too long and this behavior from radical feminazis is only giving ammunition to those who would rather see women barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

In the end, I’ll always be onboard with human equality. No one race, gender, or religion deserves more of anything over the other. What I’m saying is, don’t be an asshole, and that goes for you too, ladies.